DIFFERENT TYPES OF SOUL MATES EVERYONE ENCOUNTERS IN THEIR LIVES


1. LOVE SOULMATE:
In it only in the rarest of cases that these are the people we choose as our life partner. Most of the time these are the people who come in as our lovers and have a beautiful relationship during their stay. They might be our first crush, an affair, a week long fling or simply a no-strings-attached relationship. People like these stay in our lives for a short while only. Teaching us about ourselves and other important lessons that will be poignant and meaningful down the road.
These relationships do not start with love at first sight feeling that we think we should feel with a potential partner, but over time it builds and the relationship turns into something serious and meaningful. This “soul connection” lasts a lifetime even though the romantic love portion of the dynamic fades.
2. FRIEND SOULMATE : This is one of those types of soulmates you should cherish your whole life because these people are essentially here to stay. Sometimes you meet a person with whom hours of conversation seem like minutes.
You could never grow bored with this person’s company and you would never judge them and vice versa. These are the people who know you more than you know yourself. They get you when no one else does and stand by you like no one ever would.
3. WRECKING BALL SOULMATE :If you thought soulmates were only here to love you and care for you, think again. This soulmate is not somebody that comes into our life peacefully. They enter in to shake things up. They challenge us and make us question everything we thought we knew about life.
This type of soulmate can come in many forms but it’s normally a romantic relationship that leaves us feeling as if we’ve been swept up like a tornado, taken for the ride of our life, and then dumped from the sky with no warning in an exhausted, tailspun heap. And most people rebuild something completely different and way more beautiful than what existed before.
4. DIVINE LOVE SOULMATE : This is the soulmate that every one of us desires to have. And if we’re lucky enough, we will meet them and live out the rest of our days on this earth together.
“You felt familiar the moment I met you. A lovely sort of déjà vu. When we spoke or laughed or danced I became overwhelmed by the powerful sensation that I had been here before. And when we kissed I felt the energies of a thousand lives on our lips, like our souls had known each other all along.” – Beau Taplin
5. COMPLETE STRANGER SOULMATE : This is always a very brief encounter with somebody you don’t know. It might be the person you sat next to on a flight for a few hours, someone you meet and spend time with one evening at a party, or as brief as a stranger whose eyes yours meet on the street. The exchange is brief but intimate.
They normally say something that you need to hear in that moment, validate something that you’ve been feeling or push you in a direction you need to go but are afraid. You know in the depths of your soul the encounter meant something even though you never see them again.
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5 TYPES OF COSMIC CONNECTIONS WE WILL ENCOUNTER ON OUR JOURNEY:

1. Those meant to awaken us.

Sometimes people or things come into our lives that are meant to create a point of stopping for us.
2. Those who remind us.
Sometimes in life, we come across people who are supposed to remind us of the path we are supposed to be going down.
These people are often temporary but leave a lasting change inside your soul.
3. Those who help us grow.
Some people are meant to help us grow as a person.
They teach us things we would not have been able to do on their own.
4. Those who hold space for us.
Sometimes there are people who come into your life who are meant to hold space for us.
They make small talk and most of the time we don’t even get their names. This could be a stranger on a bus or even a worker in a coffee shop.
5. Those who stay
When we are ready the Universe will give us someone who will stay with us forever, someone who is our fate.
This person will be all that you thought they would be and more. You just have to be patient. We also encounter many people who stay when it comes to lasting friendships and close family but that one person makes things all better.

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FORGIVENESS

FORGIVENESS : There are certain incidents in our life where we are betrayed or cheated or may be insulted also by someone.
As a result we are filled with grudge, anger,hurtful or revengeful feelings.
With these feelings we create BLOCKS for our success.
Our mind is always filled with the negative thoughts of that person. Either we are thinking of how to take its revenge or how to hurt back the same person..
As a result there is no ROOM FOR PRODUCTIVE THOUGHTS, thoughts which will lead us to become a SUCCESSFUL PERSON.
So from today practice the art of forgiveness.
Forgive people with a big heart. Release the anger, grudge, frustration in your mind.
Forgiveness makes us happier
Forgiveness improves our health, when we forgive, our stress levels drop, and people who are more forgiving are protected from the negative health effects of stress. Studies also suggest that holding grudges might compromise our immune system, making us less resistant to illness.
Forgiveness sustains relationships: Studies suggest that forgiveness can stop this downward spiral and repair our relationship before it dissolves.
Forgiveness is good for marriages (most of the time): Spouses who are more forgiving and less vindictive are better at resolving conflicts effectively in their marriage.
Forgiveness boosts kindness and connectedness: People who feel forgiving don’t only feel more positive toward someone who hurt them. They are also more likely to want to volunteer and donate money to charity, and they feel more connected to other people in general.
SO START FORGIVING ALL FROM TODAY
Whenever someone hurts you or disobeys you just say I FORGIVE YOU in mind.
Don't keep anger and grudge in your heart...

You may have noticed that people who are often ill tend to be pretty negative.
Of course, it’s hard to be happy when you’re always sick or in pain. However, science is saying that your emotions may be the cause of the chronic pain you’re experiencing – and not the other way around.
In response to psychological stress or certain physical stressors, an inflammatory process may occur.
Is there a connection between emotions and chronic pain? According to Dr. Susan Babel, a psychologist who specializes in trauma-induced depression, emotions have a major impact on your chronic pain.
So what does our chronic pain show about our emotional state?Let’s take a look!
Head
Headaches or migraines can be brought on by the stress of day to day life. If one gets chronic headaches, they need to take some time for themselves. Not just once, but daily. Relieving the body of stress may help to ease any head pain.
Neck
Contrary to popular belief, neck pain does not mean kids are driving one crazy. Pain in the neck signifies the need to forgive. It may be forgiveness of another person or even forgiveness of one’s self. It is important to think about the things one loves about themselves and others to fight this pain.
Shoulders
Shoulder pain is a sign that one may be carrying a heavy emotional burden. Basically, they are shouldering everything. Try to think of ways to solve this emotional problem or share the load with trusted friends or family.
Upper Back
Lack of emotional support can manifest in upper back pain. Maybe one does not feel appreciated, or they are holding back feelings of affection. If one is in a relationship, maybe have a discussion about feelings. If one is single, it might be time to branch out.
Lower Back
Lower back pain may signify someone has financial worries. Try to sit down and focus on managing money better or hire a financial planner. It might also be time to ask for that well-deserved raise.
Elbows
Arm and elbow pain may mean a lack of flexibility. Maybe one is resisting the natural changes that are occurring in their lives. Try shaking things up and going with the flow. Attempting to fight change only brings trouble.
Hands
A lack of friends or reaching out may cause pain in the hands. Try making new friends or going to lunch with work associates. Spend some time actively meeting new people.
Hips
Fear of moving, change and waiting to make a big decision could all cause pain in the hips. Make the changes one needs and move on needed. Also, make a choice and stick with it!
Knees
Knee pain may mean that one thinks too highly of themselves. Spend some time volunteering and remember that all people are mortal. No one is free of imperfections.
Calves
Emotional tension, stress or jealousy may be the cause of calf pain. It may be time to let go of any big stressors in one’s life or to dump the jealousy.
Ankles
Ankle pain may mean one needs more pleasure in his or her life. Take some time to pamper yourself or spice up your love life. Indulge a little bit!

Feet
Depression can lead to foot pain. Depression is hard to beat, but there are some things one can do to fight back. Try a new hobby or adopt a pet. Find something that gives joy!
Friends this concept is scientifically proven so before adopting medicine or concern for the doctor, give some time and observe your thoughts... it heals you automatically.
This is from the book " You can heal your life" by Louis Hay

Karmic Relationship

The relationship that drives people crazy with anger and frustration are from a past life. These are the people who really get under your skin and exasperate you endlessly. Very often, these karmic relationships are with people in your immediate family.
Karmic relationships mean that you’ve had prior lifetimes with this person, and you both were sent back to be together to work things out peacefully. This was your soul’s choice, although it was probably highly pushed upon you by your guides and angels who helped you script out much of your life. Usually a karmic relationship is someone with whom you had a battle or other harsh circumstances. You returned together in this lifetime to ensure that you’d work things out, and clear both of your energies.
If you don’t clear the energies in this lifetime, you’ll be pressured to continue to incarnate with this soul again and again and again.
And each lifetime, his or her relationship to you will continue to be close, either through genetics and familial bonds, or through friendship, marriage, or career. So, that annoying co-worker could be your mother or husband next lifetime unless you clear the energy with her in this one.
You’re brought together with the other soul so that you can forgive him or her. This doesn’t mean forgiving their actions. It means detoxing your soul by releasing anger toward them. You don’t have to hang out with the person, but you do need to release old pent-up toxic feelings. Holding in old anger is caustic and unhealthful.
It’s also a waste of time and energy to blame that person for family dramas and your own upset. Blaming is a projection of our ego, where we don’t own our own shadows and ego issues, and we put them in the basket labeled: “It’s their fault.” And while it may be true that that person is the instigator of traumas, blaming him or her doesn’t help the situation and doesn’t balance the karma between you.
Breaking the Karmic Cycle
The first step to break this karmic cycle is for you to take responsibility for its presence in your life. Your soul agreed to be with this person because it was necessary for your spiritual progress. So forgiving yourself is the ultimate secret to healing everything in all directions of time.
This involves forgiving yourself for entering this relationship whenever you did in the distant past lifetime. You probably were given red-flag warnings by your angels then, which you chose to ignore or override. Forgive yourself for ignoring those red flags, and vow to listen from now on. Life lessons only count if we learn from them.
You get infuriated by how this person behaves. But this is how this individual’s personality works and has always worked. You were the one who chose to try to be in a relationship with him or her long, long ago. You were the one who decided that all of those red flags that your angels sent you didn’t matter. You were the one who decided that you could change or fix the person.
Now it’s time to let go of that fantasy that this person could be as you desire or dream him or her to be. You’re not the other person’s Source, nor are you the author of his or her life scripts.
Karmic relationships are akin to having a tug-of-war. They’re power plays, where one person will pull and the other person will pull back. No one wins in karmic power plays. But when one person drops his or her side of the rope (through the process of forgiving him- or herself for getting into this tug-of-war in the first place), the power struggle stops.
I use prayers for forgiveness for other and self
Saying bless you to the soul
Find reasons to be grateful 
Learn the lessons by asking them to be revealed....

FORGIVE and FORGET




A key principle to remain light and stable in relationships is – FORGIVE and FORGET - it’s a well-known principle – one that we sometimes find difficult to practice. It can be modified to forgive to forget. Sometimes we spend many years with so much bitterness inside us for a particular person, with an inner violence of wanting to make the other pay (emotions of revenge), the one who has supposedly hurt you. If you don’t strike back immediately, you at least want to keep this guilt card in your pocket, to be pulled out at a later date: Oh yes, well what about the time when you…. We keep this bitterness inside us because we haven't forgiven. It does not resolve the situation; the only thing it does is increase our pain, makes us heavy and does not let us remain in peace. So the key is that if we do not forgive, we cannot forget. When someone has offended or insulted us, the last thing we want to do is to let it go. And yet, if our desire is to have a healthy, lasting relationship, that is exactly what we’ve got to do.
Sometimes, when it is a question of a broken relationship, it is not only a matter of forgiving the other, but of forgiving yourself for having allowed yourself to enter that experience. It was you that took the step to allow that experience to be entered into. If you hadn't taken that step, you wouldn't have had that experience. You accepted that challenge, that relationship, and what might happen in it – you were aware of the possibilities when you entered in the relationship. So not only do you have to learn to forgive the other, but also to forgive yourself in such situations. Only then will you be able to forget.

SOUL CONTRACTS


Before you entered this physical time and space your soul made an agreement.
Before you came into human form, your soul had specific purpose or destiny that it had agreed to fulfill.
This destiny was written and is your Soul Contract.
We all have Soul Contracts and essentially it is the list of lessons that we are meant to acquire in this life time in order to advance our soul to a higher level of consciousness.
Your time, date and place of birth are no accident
The family you were born into was specifically chosen for you
Certain people are destined to come into your life to help you heal something either from a past life or in this lifetime
Whatever events unfold in your life are here in order to help you evolve to a higher state of consciousness
Death is also included on your soul contract, but not as a date- rather it is at a moment in your life- a moment when you realize whatever it is that you need to realize in order to move back into spirit form
You were sent to this dimension of Earth at a specific time, to a specific place and with a specific purpose.
One thing that is not predetermined however, is your free will and choice.
Life is full of choices. We all have free will, we are all in charge (to a certain extent) and we all have a say in how we want our life to unfold once we get here.

These choices are seen as our fate- we can choose which path to go down, we can choose which road to avoid and which road to pursue, but one thing that we cannot change is our destiny.
Our destiny is essentially to experience the Unconditional Love of the Universe and often this takes many journeys, across many lifetimes and dimensions, in order to fully return to this energy.
All souls on Earth are here at different stages of their conscious evolution, some are towards the end and some have just begun, but either way we are all ‘contracted’ to be here.
Essentially, your Soul Contract is the deal you made with yourself in order to help you grow and evolve to a higher state of awareness but, you are not alone. 
You are also given some help along the way by your guides and angels.
In order to fulfill your Soul Contract you are also assigned a set of spirit guides, angels and people to help you. 
If you are open enough, you will constantly receive signs, messages and clues as to whether you are following your highest or destined path.
One of the best physical clues that you are following your Soul Contract or highest path is when synchronicity occurs or strange coincidences happen that lead you from one thing to the next.
Another good sign that you are following your highest path is when you seem to meet the right people at the right time who can offer you information, guidance and assistance when you are in doubt or wanting to learn.
There is some debate over whether or not you can break your Soul Contract. Some argue that everything you do is part of your contract, and others believe that you can wander off your chosen path. But was breaking your contract part of the deal?
I don’t think its possible to really ever break your contract, but there can be moments when your choices don’t always flow with your destiny. 
When this occurs you may experience confusion, negativity or even physical ailments, but remember all of this is sometimes necessary to help you naturally align with and move back into the flow.
Think of your Soul Contract as the mountain you were placed on- the mountain you were destined to climb.
You can choose how to get to the top, you can choose which way you want to climb; each of these choices bringing about a completely different experience, but the destination will always be the same. 
Your mountain will continue to grow, shift and evolve as you do, but your purpose here in human form will always remain.
It is not a race to see how fast you can get to the top, it’s not a necessary challenge to try to climb someone else’s mountain, the challenge is in being true to yourself, and climbing your mountain with ease and grace; excited by where the journey will take you........

How Emotions Affect Our Health...

You are not a drop in the ocean but an ocean in every drop...said Rumi.
What did he mean by that... every cell in our body is intelligent to think and act.. We have 60 trillion cells in our body and our health depends a lot on the harmonic balance and cohesion of the cells with each other...
In the movie Eat, Pray Love, Julia Roberts visits a wise man in Bali, and he advises her not to try too hard to meditate.. in fact he suggests that meditation is nothing but smiling and the line that is a kicker, is " Smile with your liver "
If you believe that this is just a metaphor, lets look at the other end of the spectrum to prove just how crucial this is..
Let us say you hold a negative emotion towards somebody, something or some event in your life... each time you think of that your whole body re-lives the emotional upheaval of that association..
Your mind doesn't have a mind of its own, and doesn't know if the event is happening in real time or it is being replayed.. so it produces the same stress hormones.. each and every cell of your body starts feeling the same emotion of let us say "hatred" towards that event, person or experience all over again...
The body is not at ease.. this is a state where the condition of dis-ease sets in....
If you continue to live in that state, your cells are now getting conditioned to live in the same state...
The Upanishads talk about "Yatha Pinde tatha Brahmande" as is the atom so is the universe....
Health of a person, depends on how well all the systems of the body and the 60 trillion cells play the melody of harmony together..
When the cells are living in a state of hatred, they soon start exhibiting that with each other and killing healthy cells in the body...This leads to many forms of auto immune disease...
Like Rumi said.. you are not a drop in the ocean, you are an ocean in every drop...
Be careful of your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions...
Forgive people, not because they deserve it, but because you need it... Stay happy, stay healthy...

SOULMATE


Destiny dictates the meeting of soulmates. We will meet them. But what we decide to do after that meeting falls in the province of choice or free will. A wrong choice or a missed chance can lead to incredible loneliness and suffering.

A right choice, an opportunity realized, can bring us to profound bliss and happiness. 
There is someone special for everyone. Often there are two or three. They come from different generations. They travel across oceans of time and the depths of heavenly dimensions to be with you again. They come from the other side, from heaven. They look different, but our heart knows them.
Your head may interfere: “I do not know you.” Your heart knows.
He takes your hand for the first time, and the memory of his touch transcends time and sends a jolt through every atom of your being.
Everything outside this moment loses its importance.
A sudden feeling of familiarity, of knowing this new person at depths far beyond what the conscious mind could know.
You may be awakened to the presence of your soul companion by a look, a dream, a memory, a feeling. ...

You will not always marry your most strongly bonded soulmate. There may be more than one for you, because soul families travel together. You might choose to marry a less bonded soul companion, one who has something specific to teach you or to learn from you. Your recognition of a soulmate may occur later in life, after both of you are already committed to your present-life families. Or your strongest soulmate connection may be to your parent, or to your child, or to your sibling. Or your strongest connection may be to a soulmate who has not incarnated during your lifetime and who is watching over you from the other side, like a guardian angel.

Sometimes your soulmate is willing and available. He or she might recognize the passion and the chemistry between you, the intimate and subtle bonds that imply connections over many lifetimes. Yet he or she may be toxic for you. It is a matter of soul development.

If one soul is less developed and more ignorant than the other, traits of violence, greed, jealousy, hatred, and fear might be brought into the relationship. These tendencies are toxic to the more evolved soul, even if from a soulmate. Frequently rescue fantasies arise with the thought,
Sometimes soulmates decide not to get married while incarnated. They arrange to meet, to stay together until the agreed upon task is completed, and then to move on. Their agendas, their lesson plans for the entirety of this life, are different, and they do not want to or need to spend all of this lifetime together. This is not a tragedy, only a matter of learning. You have eternal life together, but sometimes you may need to take separate classes.
A soulmate who is available but unawakened is a tragic figure and can cause you great anguish. Unawakened means that he or she does not see life clearly, is not aware of the many levels of existence. Unawakened means not knowing about souls. Usually it is the everyday mind that prevents awakening.
We hear the excuses of the mind all the time: I'm too young; I need more experience; I'm not ready to settle down yet; you are of a different religion (or race, region, social status, intellectual level, cultural background, and so on).
These are all excuses, for souls possess none of these attributes.
The person may recognize the chemistry. The attraction is definitely there, but the source of the chemistry is not understood. It is delusional to believe that this passion, this soul recognition and attraction, will be easily found again with another person. You do not run into such a soulmate every day, perhaps only one or two more in a lifetime. Divine grace may reward a good heart, a loving soul.
Never worry about meeting soulmates. Such meetings are a matter of destiny. They will occur. After the meeting, the free will of both partners reigns.
What decisions are made or not made are a matter of free will, of choice. The less awakened will make decisions based on the mind and all of its fears and prejudices. Unfortunately, this often leads to heartache. The more awakened the couple is, the more the likelihood of a decision based on love. When both partners are awakened, ecstasy is within their grasp.


Listen to your heart, to your own intuitive wisdom, when making important decisions, especially when deciding about a gift of destiny, such as a soulmate. Destiny will deposit its gift directly at your feet, but what you subsequently decide to do with that gift is up to you. 

If you rely exclusively on the advice of others, you may make terrible mistakes. Your heart knows what you need. Other people have other agendas.